Almost all parenting blogs and articles that I have read are not into shouting. They have cited the negative impact on the children who experiences this. Earlier on in my adventures with being a mom, I tried my best to practice positive reinforcements and phrasing in order to give Geoff the best experience growing up.
You see, I grew up in a traditional environment. Naranasan ko yung mapalo, masigawan, mapagalitan, kapag sumobra kami ng kapatid ko. Name it, I think I may have experienced it, thus I really wanted to give progressive parenting a try, knowing that the environment today is way too different that before. After all, I grew up well grounded naman, so I want to see the difference myself.
Unfortunately, as much as I want to eliminate shouting in the house, this may be an area that I can’t seem to uphold in our household. Geoff is currently in his “terrible two” phase. He would climb, run, jump, hit, and even hurt himself in the process and most of the times, my initial reaction is to yell, sometimes curse, and even spank his little hands kapag sumosobra.
Am I proud of it? Of course not. I hate myself whenever I do so, knowing that I have the option not to yell or shout, or worse, hit. I sense a lot of will within Geoff, that whenever I try to ask him nicely, firmly, even explain to make him understand that he is also testing my authority at such an early age.
Did the type of discipline I opted for work? Maybe. At this point, in all honestly, I cannot tell. Mas madaling kausapin and pasunurin sa instructions si Geoff if he hears a threat than an explanation outright whenever he is in his naughty mood. I find him very agreeable when he is in the mood, thus, the explanation part works better during this phase.
Bottom line, anybody and everybody can choose to follow a particular parenting style, just always remember to tailor fit it to your child. After all, you as a mother would know your child best. Whatever it is that will or will not work.