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Shouting

Almost all parenting blogs and articles that I have read are not into shouting. They have cited the negative impact on the children who experiences this. Earlier on in my adventures with being a mom, I tried my best to practice positive reinforcements and phrasing in order to give Geoff the best experience growing up.

You see, I grew up in a traditional environment. Naranasan ko yung mapalo, masigawan, mapagalitan, kapag sumobra kami ng kapatid ko. Name it, I think I may have experienced it, thus I really wanted to give progressive parenting a try, knowing that the environment today is way too different that before. After all, I grew up well grounded naman, so I want to see the difference myself.

Unfortunately, as much as I want to eliminate shouting in the house, this may be an area that I can’t seem to uphold in our household. Geoff is currently in his “terrible two” phase. He would climb, run, jump, hit, and even hurt himself in the process and most of the times, my initial reaction is to yell, sometimes curse, and even spank his little hands kapag sumosobra.

Naughty and playful. Such a handful.

Naughty and playful. Such a handful.

Am I proud of it? Of course not. I hate myself whenever I do so, knowing that I have the option not to yell or shout, or worse, hit. I sense a lot of will within Geoff, that whenever I try to ask him nicely, firmly, even explain to make him understand that he is also testing my authority at such an early age.

Did the type of discipline I opted for work? Maybe. At this point, in all honestly, I cannot tell. Mas madaling kausapin and pasunurin sa instructions si Geoff if he hears a threat than an explanation outright whenever he is in his naughty mood. I find him very agreeable when he is in the mood, thus, the explanation part works better during this phase.

Bottom line, anybody and everybody can choose to follow a particular parenting style, just always remember to tailor fit it to your child. After all, you as a mother would know your child best. Whatever it is that will or will not work.

 

On Geoff’s Speech Progress

I am an avid reader of parenting blogs. Being a new mom 2 years ago, I thrive on what I read and try to apply it on my son as well. Of all the advises that I have read, one of the most helpful is the fact that not all children are the same, and that the best person who really knows my child, is me.

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Having fun with his alphabet

I, Babe, together with his yaya have been constantly trying to teach him how to speak. Per the progress charts, he should be able to speak phrases by now (not the straight talk kind), however, this task proves to be a very difficult feat. You see, Geoff flat out refuses to hear us out, whether we insert it to play, or during our “study” time, or even when bedtime. We always hear is standard “Na!” (which means no) and continues on with what he is doing.

Here are the things that we let him do instead, with lots of encouragement and good nudge in the right manner:

  • We encourage him to play educational toys such as letter puzzles and his leap frog phonics toy.
  • Posters of animals, alphabets, numbers and shapes are posted on his yaya’s room (that is where they take naps in the mornings and afternoons)
  • Electronic games are allowed, but only if me or Babe is there (this part is mandatory as he does not have an ipad or tablet of his own)
  • Books are everywhere, and though he does not want to be read stories, we let him browse the pages, and we volunteer the stories or what the picture is.
  • He has pretend toys downstairs and both rooms in the house. This lessens the “umay” factor when he is playing.
  • We take advantage of the time when he is in the mood to learn. Geoff provides the hints and we just take it from there.
  • TV time mostly consists of Disney Jr. and commercials (ooops!)

As of writing, I have accepted the fact that in my case, there is no point forcing Geoff to learn how to speak as he should when compared to other 2 year olds. Besides, he is talkative as he is right now, and it maybe overreacting on my part if I intervene further. The mere fact that he is able to learn a word or two every week, it is progress enough for me.