Househelp: For Hire.. or Not!

Babe and I are both working. With a 7 month old baby, it is really important for us to have extra help around the house. Given the span of my baby’s age, we’ve been through 4 different yayas.

Let’s start with the most recent. We got a referral yaya from my officemate. She was 17, according to her and she seems nice. Too quiet as well. Her mom accompanied us on the way home as it was her daughter’s first time to be a yaya. We acknowledged and welcomed them. On the first day, it was a “so far, so good” performance. The only problem that we told her was that she was too quiet. Si baby Geoff pa ung nag-eeffort na magsalita cia, since our baby’s nature is bubbly and madaldal. Come the next day, she entertained both her mom and sister in law in our house 1 afternoon without our presence. Good thing, nagsabi ako sa mom ko na dun muna cia kasi I am not yet comfortable in leaving just the 2 of them alone in the house. Imagine the stress my mom, me, and babe had when we learned na sumugod nga sa house ung nanay at ate dahil nagpromise daw ako na meron cia na mapapasukan. At the same time, they even had the gall to ask my permission if the ate can “sleep” over. Tsk talaga. When I confronted her the next day and asked what her mom said over the discussion, she simply said, “babalik daw po sila mamaya para kausapin ung papasukan ni ate..” Petsa! Nakakaloka. Nag init talaga ulo ko at sinabihan ko na sa Sabado na papuntahin, kapag nandun kami. The same day, nag sabi na cia na uwi na daw cia dahil mag aaral daw pala cia. We let her go. Hassle samin ung magulong usapan at threat na pwedeng pumunta ung nanay and sister nya anytime sa bahay, Risking our safety.

Si Mirasol naman, ok sana. Ex- OFW, mother of 3 at merong current na asawa working in Saudi. Me sob story about sa pagbubuntis nya sa bunso nya, which resulted sa pagiging lubog sa utang. Bottomline, sa kagustuhan makatulong sa asawa, iwan muna c baby and trabaho muna cia samen. She only stayed for 2 months. Nung umpisa, ok. Naging happy baby c Geoff. Nagagawa naman din nya ung ibang gawain sa bahay so, wala kami masyado problem sa kanya. Nag start ung problem nung nag text c hubby nya na kung anak daw nya ung anak nila and such. To make the long story short, apektado c yaya and nasabayan pa na nagkasakit daw c baby nya. Nagpaalam umuwi, bumalik naman kaso isinama ung 2 anak nya! eldest and ung baby. This was after her almost a week of absence. Walang silbi ung panganay and since baby pa din ung bunso nya, she ended up taking care of 2 babies, which made attention to Geoff very limited. Nagkaron pa ng time na nagslide c Geoff sa mattress sa taas kasi pinapatulog nya ung anak nya downstairs. The week ended, sabi nya, hatid na daw nya ung dalawa, cia naman daw ung nagkasakit. Then while she was out, my mom chatted with some neighbors and found out that she had plans of leaving without telling us. At the same time, we learned that she tried to borrow money from one of the yayas working in the compound. In addition, she borrowed a huge amount of money from babe’s dad. When she returned, we confronted her, and she was able to tell us the truth, that she needs to process her papers going to Malaysia and will be leaving soon. Ang nakakainis na part is that she promised to find a replacement and will stay so that she can train the replacement. We even gave her a day off to process her passport, with her promise to return. Lo and behold, dala na nya lahat ng things nya, without even saying good bye or whatever. Buti na lang andun ung mom ko that day. May napagiwanan kay Geoff.

Then si Lalaine. She was the first yaya/katulong, and Geoff was only 2 months old at the time. While my son sleeps, she will do the same thing. Maghapon nakabukas ang TV, and sobrang lakas kumain. Babe and I will only eat 1 major meal a day since he is working, and I am not in the mood to eat that time, whereas she will be eating 3 major meals, with snacks in between. There was also a time na nauuna pa sia samen na kumain, and malalaking parts pa ung kukunin. Ang pinaka bad trip pa na part is yung bilin ko na wag iduduyan c Geoff. Nawitness ko kasi na wala cia ginawa kundi iduyan ung bata and ang lakas lakas pa habang tutok ung mata sa TV. Ilang beses ko na ibinilin un, wala pa din. Until hindi ko na natiis, inulit ko ulit with force sa boses. Mejo nabawasan naman. Pagdating sa gawaing bahay, sablay din. Ako, aminado ako, ndi ako lumaki na gumagawa sa bahay. Pero comparing the quality of my work over hers, mas di hamak na mas malinis pa akong gumawa. Wala din cia malasakit sa gamit, ndi pa tuyo ung damit, tutupiin and i-store na nya agad. At the same time, binigyan ko na ng notebook ng bilin (because I get up earlier than her, I have to leave at 5am), wala man lang nagawa ni isa. She also leaves the house for emergencies without telling us. Magiiwan lang ng note na need nya umalis. Nung nakahalata cia na asar na kami, biglang nagsabi na aalis cia. Need nya daw alagaan ung mother in law nya sa Tarlac and kelangan na umuwi. We had an agreement na antayin nya kami before she leaves para meron mapagbilinan ng bata, pero when we woke up, ayun, wala na ang walang wentang tao na un. We also found out na humiram din ng pera sa dad ulit ni babe. Bad trip talaga. We received an sms from her after a few months, asking if she can come back, that she will do everything na iutos namin. No way! So un. Nothing too drastic pero kung hindi lang talaga kailangan ng yaya and if kung pwede lang talaga mag work from home, ndi na ako papasok.

Until now, wala pa din yaya. Sobrang hirap since nasa makulit na stage na c Geoff. Hindi naman pwedeng mom ko ung magasikaso at all times as she also has her own business to run, plus the fact that taking care of the baby is really exhausting. We are also reluctant in hiring from an agency as not only will it cost more, hindi pa namin kilala. We are still in search, but this time, we vowed to filter it real well. We will still be expecting flaws naman, pero at least, it may alleviate kung ano mang negative vibes kung saka sakali.

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